Life Values... What?
By: Natalie Viglione, CLC, CBC, CPC
Understanding what isn't working in your life is sometimes unclear.
Often we just feel or have a vibe that something is not right. Or, it's glaringly obvious but we're adverse to disrupting our lives to change that something in our life due to fear-based reasons and these usually start with the 'I can't because' types of sentences.
When you're unclear or think you're crazy for not understanding what's not working in your life, a valuable tool to use as a solution finder is to break down your CURRENT SITUATION as compared to your LIFE'S VALUES.
Values are not tangible items, but instead are inherent truths that live within you, and they're not supposed to be 'handed to us' by family. In fact, that is where we get into trouble. We take what other people supposedly value and make other people's values our own. STOP! That is not the way our lives work. We cannot live someone else's dream or the way they live their life because we must live our own lives and be true to ourselves. That can be scary because you're going to disrupt the status quo and it's very uncomfortable to be the salmon going upstream.
Values are NOT things like wanting that new car, or to go travel, nor is it money. Travel may represent a value of being adventurous, so the value of ADVENTURE is essential to you. Here is a FULL list of LIFE VALUES for you to look at (a Word document) so that you can seriously analyze and get to the core of what you feel deep inside of you and understand what’s important to you and you alone.
When you start to unveil what your core values are, you will be either incredibly surprised or you'll look at your final list and think duh, I knew that. Regardless of how you feel after you have your final top 7 or 8 values, you will now be able to begin evaluating your life.
The next process I take my clients through is to look at that top value list in order of importance and compare it to what is happening right now in your life. Understanding what you thrive on helps you to many things like awakening your purpose, establish your relationships, and much more.
Here are my top values in order of importance as to how I live my life and what I do in my life:
2) Truth & Open-Mindedness
3) Leadership4) Boldness
5) Perseverance6) Empathy
When I first sat down to do this process at a seminar back in 2014 (I was in a major 'fork in the road' moment and needed some serious assessment), that's when I realized how far I was from my inherent truths.
Here are some incredible things that came from this. I realized that my purpose was way beyond the type of work I was doing at that time. I had the foundation right that I loved helping people and their companies get better, but I realized I was able to do much more than this and had to think bigger. It drove me to get my certification and schooling to become a coach in 2017. It was because of this exercise and getting coaches for myself that I was able to change my life in profound ways. In fact, going back to this process helped me recently become even more clear as to who I am and what my purpose was meant to express into the world through me. I realized yet again that I needed to think even bigger!
I was empowered with the task of leaving the corporate world. So I did just that. I empowered myself to build my own business. The corporate life was killing me... slowly. My 12-14 hour days every single day, drinking and going out with potential clients, and stressed beyond stressed was no way for me to live. No matter how much yoga I did or how often I worked out, no matter how much I spoke with my partner whom I loved dearly about it, nothing worked to alleviate the stress. So I became angry and that anger produced itself physiologically in my body. I used to get bright red hives that covered my entire face and upper body and then would have anxiety attacks. Maybe not every day, but the fact that I had them at all was so not me. Corporate life gave me huge paychecks so shouldn't I have been happy? That's the funny thing; money does not make you happy. In fact, I was quite the opposite of happy. I was a disaster; a totally miserable bitch. Here's how analyzing my current situation against my core life value list changed the game and helped me understand how to start building out my ultimate vision of my life through a desire and goal/tactics list:
See how this works? I could go on and on as my list was quite long. This is exactly why it's so essential to really look at your life NOW versus your inherent value list to understand what you have to change immediately. And, that will take a major disrUPtion moment and what my ethos of Disrupt Now really means at the very core.
Do you have lots of questions? Or are you ready to do this formally? Go here to set up a consult with me.
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